Sad news do not always come at a proper time. Sometimes they come as expected, ofen completely unexpectedly, but the loss of a loved one affects each of us permanently. Therefore, we need to provide support to the mourners in their most painful moments by expressing condolences and saying words of comfort. This is the least we can do, especially in situations where we are not sure how they cope with the new circumstances. The family and friends will gather at the home of the deceased, they will mourn together and deal with ceremonial obligations related to the burial. Although each of us experiences sadness and pain in his or her own way, your words of comfort and sincere compassion will provide them with an additional support because the understanding is what the mourning person needs at that moment, and what can help him or her heal his or her emotional wounds faster. Knowing that he or she is not alone in the tragedy that has befallen him or her is also very important. Even if you were not very close with the deceased or his or her family, the expressing of condolences means showing good manners and respecting the social norms.
While some time ago the most common way of expressing one's condolences was to send a telegram, today there are much more media you can use to express your condolences. Writing a letter in one's own hand or a a sympathy card the design of which can be custom-made and sent by post or courier service represents a nice tradition. Together with your words of sympathy you can add a symbolic gift such as flowers, a religious symbol or a memorial book which are included in our offer. If you are an attentive listener and you know the deceased very well, making a phonecall is another appropriate way to express your condolences. In this way, you will also receive feedback on how the mourner is coping with his or her loss and offer him o her concrete help, such as transportation, preparation of meals, doing the shopping, picking up the children at a nursery or at school etc. You will also find out if th mourner prefers being alone instead of having visitors at his or her home.
In most recent times sending text messages and e-mails, as well as using Viber or WhatsApp applications is a common way to express your condolences. These methods of communication are very practial, particularly if the persons live at great distance one from the other, but regardless of the costs of a potential phonecall, always bear in mind that it is much better, more pleasant and sincere to hear one's voice over the phone and sense his or her calming tone than exchange text messages through the screen. Therefore, pay attention when using them and be very gentle when communicating, but first of all, be sincere. The content of your message is still more important than its form.
Today social networks have become a window into the world with which we share various details pertaining to our life. We could see many times the grieving fans leaving messages of sympathy to the families of their idols who left this world onto the walls of their web pages, as well as various statuses dedicated to the deceased, along with commemorative quotes, verses or photographs. While this form of expressing one's condolences has become common in the case of a public person, it is not suitable for the sad situations in which our family members, friends, coleagues, acquaintances etc. Have found themselves. Respecting one's privacy is mandatory, and it resembles the one in the real world. This means that upon receiving the sad news you will not go an visit someone or call the mourners still disconsolate and weeping. Be aware of the delicacy of the moment and provide consolation and support to those who need it the most in a dignified way, chosing carefully the words to say and offering your assistance in an unimposing way, if the mourner should decide to accept it. Let each person deal with his or her pain in his or her own way, both at their home or in cyberspace.
Although you will create your best and the most beautiful condolence messages by yourself, depending on the relationship you had with the deceased and his or her family, here we will enlist some short and long examples which you may find inspirational. Complete them by adding some personal details in order to make them acquire the necessary level of your presence.
Please accept our sincere condolences for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
We sincerely sympathise in your pain and pray that the soul of (name of the deceased) finds its peace and rest.
May the angels watch over you (name of the deceased) up in the sky, and console you who are on this earth in this unrecoverable loss. Please accept our most sincere condolences.
You are in my thoughts and prayers, because the grief is too big for you to be coping with it alone.
May your faith in eternal life comfort you and help you through these difficult times.
Please let me extend my sincere condolences on the occasion of your loss. I had an honour to know (name of the deceased) and to be part of his or her life.
We sympathise with you in these difficult moments. (Name of the deceased) will be remembered forever, because our life would have never been the same if there was no for his or her kindness, love and trust. Our thoughts and our hearts are with you.
Owing to (name of the deceased) this world has become a better place. We know that it is difficult to provide you consolation in your grief, but you are in our thoughts and prayers all the time. If there is anything we can do to alleviate your pain or assist you in performing everyday tasks, we are at your disposal.
I still feel sad as in the moment of having found out the sad news of the death of (name of the deceased). I sincerely sympathise with your loss, because (name of the deceased) was not just my friend, but she was an incredible woman and a role model for many of us. I am proud that she was part of my life, as she will continue to be until we meet at some better place.